Marriage / porn / Sex / women

Do Single Women Watch More Porn?

While procrastinating writing this morning, I continued reading Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough and worked my way through one too many soy lattes. Over caffeinated, I began thinking about all the single ladies out there looking for mates in combination with my usual musings about porn. Which made me wonder if the “one in three women watches pornography regularly” statistic has anything to do with, well, all the single ladies. A friend of mine recently mentioned that she only turns to XXX when she’s not getting any. And given that so many women are marrying (or common-lawing) later or not at all, perhaps less regular sex (assuming coupled folks are doing it more than single folks) is directly fueling the expanding female porn market. On the other hand, I’ve heard that part of the rise in female viewers comes from the couple’s porn market. There are many other factors at play of course, for example: accessibility and changing attitudes.

Here’s where I wish I could put on my statistician hat and take a quick survey.  Are single women more likely to watch porn than women coupled up? I’d love to hear your opinions.

On another note, I must say that reading Marry Him on the coattails of Committed has me feeling a tad confused about women and marriage. In Committed I learned that marrying at younger than twenty-five gives you a close to seventy-five percent chance of divorcing; whereas after twenty-five, the divorce rates bounce to a happy fifty percent. Hooray, that’s us, hon! Then in Marry Him I learned that after thirty-five women have a forty percent chance of marrying, ever. Yup, that calculates to a ten-year window for happily ever after, ladies. Sheesh, I guess I should thank my lucky stars. Except that in Committed I also learned that men are generally happier in marriage than women.

Good golly, I’ve hit analysis paralysis. I’m off  to call the huz and tell him I love him, freeze my eggs, download Horny Ever After, and wholeheartedly hope for the best.

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One thought on “Do Single Women Watch More Porn?

  1. Money can be touchy, but not tianlkg about the things that bother us in relationships, no matter how big or small, is so much worse! This exactly! You have to be open about these things. When it comes to wanting things, versus needing things, you have to be willing and able to compromise and prioritize. For a long time, we kept completely separate accounts. We spent on whatever we wanted and constantly found ourselves in a tight spot. Once we combined and were open about our purchases, things got easier and we are both accountable to each other. My husband and I budget ourselves $50/week each to spend on whatever we want. For him, it’s usually a tech gadget of some sort, for me it’s usually lunch out with a girlfriend and a couple Starbucks lattes. The little splurges that we enjoy, we allow ourselves. It doesn’t sound like much for one week, but we discussed how much more important it is to us to put extra $$$ into our savings. And that $50 is our own money to spend each week, separate from dining out or other entertainment. For bigger purchases, we discuss and decide if it’s something we really want or need, and come up with a plan for when we’ll buy it and how we’ll save up for it. There’s a big difference between a car repair and upgrading to a bigger tv. For us, money decisions come down to want vs. need. Great discussion topic! It’s a big one!

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