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Does Porn Turn Men off Real Sex?

What about a little bukaki later, dollface?

While doing some research today, I stumbled upon this 08 article: The Porn Myth: In the end, porn doesn’t whet men’s appetites—it turns them off the real thing by Naomi Wolf. Here’s a sound bite to get an idea of what she’s talking about:

But the effect (of mainstream porn) is not making men into raving beasts. On the contrary: The onslaught of porn is responsible for deadening male libido in relation to real women, and leading men to see fewer and fewer women as “porn-worthy.” Far from having to fend off porn-crazed young men, young women are worrying that as mere flesh and blood, they can scarcely get, let alone hold, their attention.

…But does all this sexual imagery in the air mean that sex has been liberated—or is it the case that the relationship between the multi-billion-dollar porn industry, compulsiveness, and sexual appetite has become like the relationship between agribusiness, processed foods, supersize portions, and obesity? If your appetite is stimulated and fed by poor-quality material, it takes more junk to fill you up. People are not closer because of porn but further apart; people are not more turned on in their daily lives but less so.

I understand Wolf’s arguments about porn watering down real-life sex and providing unrealistic comparisons—waxed, d-cupped, bronzed bimbos on command—because they used to be my own. But reading this article now I find Wolf’s take negative and nostalgic, especially her comparison of our porn riddled society to the idealized sexual life of her days of yore and her Orthodox friend in Jerusalem. The idea that women have less sexual value now because they can be downloaded willy nilly just doesn’t quite ring true. I know plenty of thoughtful, porn-viewing men and women who put a high priority on human connection. And I must say that because of my husband’s brush with the porn world, and my change in attitude about porn, I am not further apart from my man, but closer. I am not less turned on, but more. The accessibility to porn is creating new communication challenges between the sexes—to be sure. That’s why we need open dialogues and sex-education more than ever. As for Wolf’s suggestion that “Now you have to offer—or flirtatiously suggest—the lesbian scene, the ejaculate-in-the-face scene,” instead of mere intercourse, she seems to be idealizing mere intercourse and suggesting that the other options are degrading. Provided both parties are willingly engaged and respecting their personal boundaries: Is there something wrong with lesbian sexual encounters or cum-in-the-face? I’d argue they could be considered safe sex.

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3 thoughts on “Does Porn Turn Men off Real Sex?

    • Pues lo cierto es que, despue9s de leer los dos totoims editados por Ecc, no puedo me1s que decir que he caeddo rendido ante la versif3n de la Princesa Amazona de Azzarelo y Chiang. Puede que no sea la Wonder Woman con la que creced (la de Perez, be1sicamente) pero la verdad es que es una versif3n fante1stica, con una visif3n bastante interesante de los mitos griegos y su interaccif3n en el mundo contempore1neo. De verdad que me ha sorprendido. Sf3lo una cosa me ha molestado y mucho debo af1adir. La alteracif3n del origen de Diana, uno de los me1s hermosos, ha sido modificado de una manera un tanto “chusca”. Pero bueno supongo que Azzarelo lo utiliza como impulso para su historia. Que se le va a hacer. Confiare9 en su criterio.

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