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Why You Should Check Out: Our Porn, Ourselves

June gloom has officially settled in on LA, which for Angelinos means morning clouds for a whole month. I know, woe is me, it’s still a steady seventy-five degrees. On this dreary morning, I’ve been reading Our Porn, Ourselves–a website created by most-fabulous sex writer, speaker, Oprah guest, and sex-positive pundit Violet Blue to promote pro-porn discussion in response to the feminist, anti-porn convention that will be held in Boston on June 12th. I encourage you to go check out the site. There’s tons of interesting chatter that I won’t attempt to paraphrase here. If you’ve been reading this blog you already know my stance: that I used to be somewhat anti-pornography and now come down pro-porn. To me, saying pro-porn means that while I do not like ALL porn or agree with every porn practice, I believe in the right to choose and that we (in the grand sense) have much to gain from non-judgmental, open discussions about pornography with friends, community and lovers. My take is well summed up by the words of feminist author Wendy McElroy, who in XXX A Woman’s Right to Pornography says:

…The key is choice. With regard to pornography, this means: Let individual women decide for themselves. Let them weigh the evidence and come to their own conclusions.

But what of the women who are upset by the mere fact that pornography exists? Aren’t they “forced” to live in a pornographic world? In a word, yes. Women who like pornography force others to live in a pornographic world in the same manner that women who lack taste in clothes force others to live with their fashion sense.

Can porn really be likened to fashion, you might ask? I sure think so. Two words to represent the fashion equivalent of all the porn I don’t download: Ed Hardy.

Now if only the huz would come home from shooting reality TV and help me make a pro-porn video. In the meantime the sun is just poking out, time to take off my jammies and hunt down some grub.

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4 thoughts on “Why You Should Check Out: Our Porn, Ourselves

  1. i’d like to know too ^^”i think maybe you need to involve yeuosrlf more with your friends and start going places, like travel, movies, pool, shopping, grocery store, restaraunts, etc. or just going over to friends houses and hanging out with them moretry to get outside more, ride a bike, listen to music, and a good one is switch from computer to tv, start watching shows and movies therethat’s all the advice i can give..because that’s what usually distracts me from the computer when i don’t go on much.im such an internet addict..but nothing to be ashamed of in this day and age, probably only going to get more common, just make sure it isn’t getting in the way of your being productive and gaining skills and friends in REAL life

  2. Sue write this to me after this post, and I thought it neeedd to be shared:It comes down to whether or not you TRUST your spouse enough to be vulnerable. had an issue NOT shared with me once ( financial) because he knew what my explosive nature is (lol) and the dread of the encounter held him back, but the point of him not feeling like he could share hurt me worse than the actual situation . We must check ourselves in our relationships to see if we R worthy of such intimacy .. sure was a wake up call for me.

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