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Fair Trade Porn

I read Anna North’s interesting review: Exxxit: Lust, Labia Trimmings and The Lasting Stigma of Porn on Jezebel this morning, my first reaction to which was–holy crap, Houston sold her labia trimmings? Well, I never. It’s an unusual thing (vast understatement) to have your discarded labia enshrined, especially since one assumes she was less than thrilled with her extra wobbly bits. Alas, one woman’s junk is another man’s treasure. I will reserve judgment on her MO for trimming. Those lips are bankable, I get it.

Anyway, I’m definitely intrigued to see this new doc: Exxxit: Life After Porn which explores the lives of porn stars after the fact. In her review North brings up valid and complex issues such as the cultural dichotomy between the private worship and public condemnation of porn stars. Here’s a snippit:

During the Q&A after the show, I asked Wagoner and some of his subjects what the solution was. I was curious not just about how to relieve the stigma porn stars and ex-porn stars face, but also how to fix an industry many ex-performers looked back on as degrading. Several former stars in the film were so disturbed by their time in the business that they joined anti-porn campaigns like XXX Church, but I wondered if there was a way to make porn more humane for its performers rather than rejecting it entirely.

Yup, there’s the rub–how do we ensure porn is created humanely? If we are going to consume porn, shouldn’t we have a stake in the ethics of its production? And if so, what is the porn equivalent of the fair trade label? Before my man’s encounter with the porn biz, I easily ignored the difficult and multi-faceted questions that porn brought up. But having my husband film the happy, healthy, Nina Hartley and others not so self-possesed, brought these issues to our dinner table and with them the awareness of a need for better solutions.

Suffice to say, I don’t know them all yet. For the moment I must return to a more pressing matter, which is counseling my best friend who’s in LA for a visit. The question of the day is: can love work between a thirty-year-old and a sixty-year-old? And let me tell you, there aren’t any easy answers here either.

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4 thoughts on “Fair Trade Porn

  1. As a sex-positive feminist this is something I think about often.

    Can sex work in general (including stripping and prostitution) be made healthy for all those involved or should it just be abolished? By making it illegal are we not just sending it underground and basically creating a free for all the way narcotics and prostitution have become in America?

    As a person interested in social justice issues, I don’t think these issues stop here. The same questions could be asked regarding employment like coal mining which is often dangerous for both the workers and the environment of communities near coal mines.

    But I guess its “different” when sex is part of the equation.

    Ahhh, to live in a world without easy answers.

    Thanks for bringing up this sensitive topic.

  2. The trouble is – what do you actually do in practical terms if your husband is a pornographer? He is just not interested in living humans, unless they are of the removed, internet sort. Anything closer to that makes him freak out. Any suggestions of a practical nature would be much appreciated. I tried getting the internet down for a few hours, or days even, but when it’s back on, there he is again, spending all his time watching porn! Luckily for him his employer is paying him to work from home, unlucky for me that I married him.

    • By subhogue June 26, 2012 – 22:57sorry to burst your bbbule but they already have a stories app, it’s called literotica, they also have a website that has been running for years adding to their database. You won’t be able to compete with them. You do one thing well, stick with that and make it better.Ex. Some bugs you need to fix on video app:When lock button is hit countdown restartWhen phone autolocks countdown resetOn galaxy note countdown is actually 480 sec. !!!!!!!!!!!need to work on optimizing memory usage!!!!!!!!!

    • COULDNT AGREE MORE. I get on the bus everyday with peploe just like the two you have described. They scream, shout, swear, sing and play music all at top volume. They don’t care about anyone else and the louder the are, the cooler they think they are, all trying to out do each other in ranking. It’s a status thing and their conversation is benale. I worry that the vast majority of the kids I encounter everyday arn’t actually classified as children anymore as they all go to the local college. Where are they all going to end up and who is going to employ someone with an attitude like that?

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