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The Anal Sex/ Female Orgasm Correlation

I just read The Riddle of The Sphincter: Why do women who have anal sex get more orgasmsa Slate article by William Saletan, which offers thirteen hypotheses for the sodomy/orgasm correlation revealed in the recent US sex survey. The other day I gave my opinion that porn is largely responsible for the mainstreaming of anal sex and I stick to that viewpoint. However, I should add that it’s not that I think people weren’t doing it back door before but rather that guys and gals are now more likely to be exposed to the idea, talk about it, and consider it part of their sexual menu. Basically, I think openness begets sexual exploration, anal and otherwise, which in turn is likely to lead to more female orgasms. But I also (like Saletan) think it’s important in this discussion that we not poo poo anyone who enjoys solely vaginal sex a.k.a. vanilla sex and to recognize that sex of any kind can be just as enjoyable sans orgasm. Alas, that’s not the discussion here and I happen to agree with all thirteen reasons surmised for why anal sex seems to equate to more female orgasms. They are:

1. Anal sex causes orgasms

2. Orgasms increase women’s willingness to try anal sex.

3. Orgasms increase women’s willingness to try anal sex, which in turn causes orgasms.

4. Orgasms cause relaxation, which facilitates anal sex.

5. Adventurousness causes orgasms and anal sex.

6. Women who orgasm easily are more likely to try anal sex.

7. Self-assurance causes orgasms and anal sex

8. Anal sex requires affirmative interest

9. Love and trust cause orgasms and anal sex

10. Male assertiveness causes orgasms and anal sex.

11. Anal includes manual.

12. Anal sex requires more foreplay and patience, which increases the odds of orgasm.

13. Internet porn is spreading the idea

The other factor that I would add to this list is that I personally need to be pretty dang turned on for the pain quotient in anal sex to become pleasure, hence likeliness to orgasm. Now, I have plenty of friends who do not find anal sex as painful as I do. And yes, I do know that this act requires proper preparation, having attended sex workshops on the subject.  Not to mention hubby’s firsthand knowledge that before any anal scene a porn star spends some quality time with a dido in their rear. My darling husband was once kind enough to suggest I while away the hours at my desk in this way. Thanks for the tip, dear. Of course being turned on enough for anal sex can be a smorgasbord of many of the above factors and many more unmentioned here. As for whether the mainstreaming of anal sex will diminish its taboo appeal, I say: possible but doubtful. At least not in my relationship. For like venison or lobster or blueberry pie in February, it’s simply not always on the menu.

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