I read this handy little list today over coffee: 7 Things Not To Share With Your Boyfriend. To my shock and awe, I came up very short. The TMI list included sharing: Your Bodily Functions Your Girlfriends’ Secrets Your Toothbrush Your Password Your Dislike For His Mother Your Insecurities Your Past…In Detail There must be … Continue reading
Category Archives: men
After Sex Cuddles
Check out this “My After Sex Buddy” commercial. It’s pretty entertaining even if the “men don’t cuddle” stereotype is a little hackneyed. The truth is, I’ve never been with a man who didn’t snuggle (or at least sleep tangled up) after sex, having grown up in the land of single mother reared, sensitive-new-age men. But … Continue reading
He’s Just Not That Into Anyone… And She Wishes He’d Shut Up About It
This week I’ve been following the buzz surrounding Davy Rothbart’s He’s Just Not That Into Anyone in NY Mag’s Porn issue. He also appeared on The Joy Behar Show this week to talk about the same issue, which is how watching too much Internet porn can decrease one’s appetite for the real thing and cause … Continue reading
My Husband’s Impulse Purchases
My husband has suddenly developed a fixation with oral hygiene. And no, that’s not some kind of nasty sexual innuendo; it means simply that he’s unexpectedly entranced with teeth and gum health. The other day he purchased an electric toothbrush and water flosser on Amazon. And when they arrived on our doorstep an hour ago … Continue reading
Happy Thanksgiving, America!
Happy American Thanksgiving, all! It’s almost time for me to get baking. I’m making this Pumpkin Gingersnap Pie (courtesy of my pal, Op) again, which was a big hit at our Canadian Thanksgiving five minutes ago. As expats in LA, it seems like we just feast all fall. Or at least my love handles feel … Continue reading
Where is the Female Gaze?
I just read this Erika Lust blog post: Let’s exercise our female gaze and it made me reflect on how very difficult I find it to come across actually sexy images of men from a female perspective. Take, for example, this Porn for Women book with its gag worthy caption: Have another piece of cake. … Continue reading
Does Housework Make Men Happy? Not Likely, but Equality Might…
Yesterday I was captivated by this Salon headline: Men Who Clean House Are Happier… So are husbands with wives who put in similar hours at the office. Could equality be their secret? Catchy, right? But as Tracy Clark-Flory elucidates–it’s unclear whether this British survey reveals that folks who work similar hours and do equivalent housework … Continue reading
Thoughts on “The Men Who Believe Porn Is Wrong”
Last week in the Guardian UK I read The Men Who Believe Porn Is Wrong—a strongly anti-porn biased article discussing Matt McCormack Evan’s website: Anti-porn Men Project. I encourage you to check out the article before reading this post to get the full gist. As you can probably guess, I disagree with many of its points … Continue reading
Why Creep Is a Dangerous Word
The other day I read Why Do We Demonize Men Who Are Honest About Their Sexual Needs? an excellent article by Clarisse Thorn published on Alternet and Jezebel. Ever since, I’ve been thinking about the “creep” label guys sometimes get. I’ve had my share of what you’d call creepy experiences: dudes whipping out their junk … Continue reading
Are Men Really More Visual?
I just read this Erika Lust interview: What turns women on; less kitch, more context in the Globe and Mail, once again affirming how much I dig this chick and how happy I am that women like her are making porn. I was intrigued by this quote that brings up several issues I’ve talked about … Continue reading