“Bon, Bean, Bonnifer Lee, Bonnie, and Lee Bon,” are all names that my husband and I call each other and the list, disturbingly, goes on. I’m not exactly sure how this phenomenon started but we’ve been together seven years and the names continue to multiply unabated. Saying “Bean” with a southern accent somehow morphs into … Continue reading
Category Archives: Relationships
Why Do We Need to Break Up Twice?
Ever feel like you’re experiencing déjà vu with a pal who’s going through a break-up? You thought you’d heard and said everything there was to express about what’s-his-face, and then suddenly, he’s back, starring in Primetime Conversation. A few weeks ago she’d concluded that he was nothing but trouble. But now she’s wearing her rosy … Continue reading
Trying Not to Take it Personally
Last week I read an article in SELF magazine about why it’s often detrimental to take things too personally. The message resonated with me and I’ve been working on not taking things to heart–except the wise advice to detach more often, that is. Let me tell you, the whole “water off a duck’s back thing” … Continue reading
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What Not to Share With Your Boyfriend or Your Neighbors
I read this handy little list today over coffee: 7 Things Not To Share With Your Boyfriend. To my shock and awe, I came up very short. The TMI list included sharing: Your Bodily Functions Your Girlfriends’ Secrets Your Toothbrush Your Password Your Dislike For His Mother Your Insecurities Your Past…In Detail There must be … Continue reading
Marriage / Relationships / Sex
Will Forty Beads Spice up Your Sex Life?
So I don’t look like Gwyneth Paltrow, folks. I know, shock and awe. I broke the cleanse last night with some red wine at a birthday. But I think going it squeaky clean since last Monday did me good. I’m feeling way more aware of what I’m consuming. And I exercised every day this week! … Continue reading
porn / Relationships / Sex
DIY Porn
Over the weekend I read this Globe and Mail article: How DIY porn might save your relationship and thusly I’ve been reflecting on the ways that DIY helped the state of my union. By that, I mean both my relationship with porn and with my husband. As I’ve no doubt blogged about before, I used … Continue reading
men / Relationships / Sex / women
After Sex Cuddles
Check out this “My After Sex Buddy” commercial. It’s pretty entertaining even if the “men don’t cuddle” stereotype is a little hackneyed. The truth is, I’ve never been with a man who didn’t snuggle (or at least sleep tangled up) after sex, having grown up in the land of single mother reared, sensitive-new-age men. But … Continue reading
Did I Pick My Husband for His Bi-winning Culinary Style?
I just read this CNN living article: Pick a man by his winning culinary style, which wasn’t exactly revelatory—apparently if a guy serves up nothing but fast food it may be hard to get him to cook cassoulet down the line, you don’t say? And second of all, who can earnestly use “winning” in a title … Continue reading
The Three Year Glitch – Signs of Relationship Failure or Success?
This morning I’ve been reading all about the three-year glitch, formerly known as the seven- year itch or the point in a relationship where things go deeply south. This UK study reveals that the small, irritating behaviors we often overlook at the beginning of a courtship now begin to grate at about 36 months. The … Continue reading
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He’s Just Not That Into Anyone… And She Wishes He’d Shut Up About It
This week I’ve been following the buzz surrounding Davy Rothbart’s He’s Just Not That Into Anyone in NY Mag’s Porn issue. He also appeared on The Joy Behar Show this week to talk about the same issue, which is how watching too much Internet porn can decrease one’s appetite for the real thing and cause … Continue reading
Emily Southwood 