I’ve been reading two new memoirs in the last couple weeks—Fury by Koren Zailckas and Poser by Claire Dederer. What these books have in common, besides being wry, well-written, thought-provoking, soul searching memoirs, is that they are rather depressing. Sorry, ladies, that’s not meant to be a diss and may very well be more of … Continue reading
Category Archives: Relationships
How (a good) Marriage Makes You Healthier
I just started my Sunday with a couple shots of espresso and some dallying on the Interweb, where I stumbled upon this study which proves that marriage, “cheers you up, improves your diet, and helps you live longer.” Goody! The reasons stated seem to be the expected ones—harmonious commitments provide support systems for physical and … Continue reading
If Marriage Is Obsolete, Why Are We Still Saying I Do?
Tucked in bed at 10pm last night (not sure when I became quite so elderly) I read Time Magazine’s: Marriage: What’s It Good For?. The short answer to the question is marriage is good for educated, rich people. According to this recent study, if you are financially stable and educated, you are more likely to … Continue reading
feminism / men / porn / Relationships / Sex
Thoughts on “The Men Who Believe Porn Is Wrong”
Last week in the Guardian UK I read The Men Who Believe Porn Is Wrong—a strongly anti-porn biased article discussing Matt McCormack Evan’s website: Anti-porn Men Project. I encourage you to check out the article before reading this post to get the full gist. As you can probably guess, I disagree with many of its points … Continue reading
men / Relationships / Sex / women
Why Creep Is a Dangerous Word
The other day I read Why Do We Demonize Men Who Are Honest About Their Sexual Needs? an excellent article by Clarisse Thorn published on Alternet and Jezebel. Ever since, I’ve been thinking about the “creep” label guys sometimes get. I’ve had my share of what you’d call creepy experiences: dudes whipping out their junk … Continue reading
Marriage / Relationships / Sex
Why Snuggling, Not Groping Leads to More Groping
How is it Tuesday already, I wonder? I just slept for some ten-plus hours to rid myself of a headache that’s been thrumming for the last week. But I’m going to stop whining here for a second and let someone else have a turn–the men who responded to Dr. Logan Levkoff’s Fox news article 5 … Continue reading
TGIF: Iced Tea, Eat, Pray, Love, and MILFs
Sigh, Friday afternoon and hot as blazes here in LA. I’m hoping to hit some air conditioning this weekend and see Eat, Pray, Love, which has received fairly positive reviews from my friends and my Mom, who had real issues with the memoir, i.e. stop whining. After seeing the movie, Ma remarked that she liked … Continue reading
Am I Pregnant?
I used my first pregnancy test ever yesterday. Today I turn thirty-two, so really you could say I’ve had a good run—never before having reason to unwrap the dip stick. Am I trying to get pregnant, you ask? No. But this weekend I visited my acupuncturist who after listening to my symptoms—fatigue, nausea, listlessness—asked me … Continue reading
Family Summer Vacations
Still in Quebec on summer vaca though I’ve moved to a different Laurentian lake with a different set of in-laws, as hubby’s parents divorced long ago and both have new partners. My two sets of in-laws could not be more different, which always makes for a somewhat schizophrenic getaway—something like jamming together an all-inclusive and … Continue reading
Are Differences Ever Really Irreconcilable?
Pulling into Montreal on a humid Saturday this weekend, I had the strange sensation of returning to a place that once felt like home and no longer does. Though I wasn’t born in Montreal, I lived there for important years and the city is steeped with personal history—first love, family tombstones, the vague smell of … Continue reading
Emily Southwood 