Recently a girlfriend rung me up with a dilemma—she’d been served a cohabitation agreement, wherein after being bestowed a bedside table in her new boyfriend’s house she was asked to sign documents dividing their assets. After we’d hashed out the recent events—which we decided were especially icky because of a particularly ill-timed delivery—I started thinking … Continue reading
Category Archives: Relationships
porn / Relationships / Sex
Back in LA; Up on Huffington
Wheh. Yesterday involved a few too many planes, trains, and automobiles but I’m back at my desk at last. At least for the next five minutes until I must run to the boss’ house and do some bookkeeping. I absolutely loved Chicago, architecture boat tour and all. I’ve a sore neck from looking up at … Continue reading
Chicago Getaway Meets Sex-Affirmative Chats on Porn
In the past week I’ve been reading plenty of anti-porn sentiments in Gail Dines’ Adventures in Pornland, and Have the Feds Gone Soft on Porn on Mother Jones, which is why it was so refreshing to read Charlie Glickman’s 7 Ways to Create a Sex-Positive Critique on Porn. As per usual, Mr. Glickman provides enlightened words … Continue reading
How Oprah Helps Me Make Decisions
I just read another thought provoking article in this month’s O Mag called How to Solve a Thorny Problem. Martha Beck provides a convincing counter against either-or answers, suggesting–what if both answers to a given problem are correct? Apparently most of us divide between the black and white type and the greyer sort. I’ve always … Continue reading
Break-ups, Eye-Rolling and Lasting Relationships… Here’s Hoping
This weekend was pretty hectic for a gal who usually tucks in long before the witching hour. Between birthdays, LA visitors and the fourth of July, I ended up sipping on my fair share of beverages and, on a less celebratory note, discussing break-ups. Listening to what went wrong in several marriages and long-term relationships, … Continue reading
Thoughts on How to Talk About Porn and Compromise
Following the train of a Charlie Glickman tweet yesterday, I clicked through to a website called Scarleteen and found myself lingering for over an hour. Despite the fact that I was supposed to have been writing, my time was well spent, or at least vastly better consumed than the previous hour, which involved one too … Continue reading
Marriage / Relationships / Sex
Is Long Distance Making Us Lazy?
The huz and I endured a recent bout of long distance, which brought me back to the good, or not so good, old days of our two years apart during grad school. Though ultimately I think our time separated strengthened our ties, I don’t think it actually fortified my tolerance for the long-distance relationship. If … Continue reading
Relationships / Sex / women
Do Women Care About Relationships More, and Sex Less Than Men?
The other evening over wine, a friend and I discussed how she’s holding off on sleeping with a guy she’s dating. We’ve all heard the rationale for not putting out too soon before—that dudes jump ship if they get you in the sack and women often become emotionally attached. In keeping, I just read an … Continue reading
What if Your Best Friends Don’t Know Everything?
I picked up Marie Claire’s July issue to read Lori Gottlieb’s article: What if Your Best Friends Are Your Worst Enemies? where she argues that, “instead of a frenzied pack of enablers nurturing our self-delusion, what we need is someone brave enough to give us the truth.” Gottlieb makes some convincing points in her article … Continue reading
Fair Trade Porn
I read Anna North’s interesting review: Exxxit: Lust, Labia Trimmings and The Lasting Stigma of Porn on Jezebel this morning, my first reaction to which was–holy crap, Houston sold her labia trimmings? Well, I never. It’s an unusual thing (vast understatement) to have your discarded labia enshrined, especially since one assumes she was less than thrilled … Continue reading
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